I have been thinking about this topic for the past week. We have all been there when someone tries to manipulate us, using facts that we don’t like. It’s even worse when someone, who was your friend, does it against your will.
How To Spot Emotional Manipulation
- They will use your words against you.
Be aware that they will know what gets under your skin. They will know because, chances are, you have told them, without thinking about it.
They will do something that hurts you and then they will use your words to turn the situation comfortable for them. They will try to make you feel guilty for your accusation.
- It’s not their fault.
It’s never their fault. If something goes wrong, someone else was responsible for it. Look out for those kind of people.
- They project their insecurities on you.
These manipulators will try to make sure you can relate with them. They will use their weak spots on you. Do not get fooled if somebody tries to tell you something to make you feel bad about yourself. Only you can know what’s good and what’s bad for you.
- They tend to deny what they said.
They will try to tell you that they didn’t promise you anything. It’s as if their memory just went blank for that moment. In this case, you will need an evidence (sms, chat message, or even voice recording).
- They rise their voice.
This is the kind of manipulation I pity the most. Why you need to rise your voice to prove a point? Calm down, take a deep breath and explain what’s in your mind. Don’t yell. Nobody has proved anything with rising their voice.
- They try to humilate you.
I have no idea if that’s what brings them joy, but they like to remind you of that one stupid thing you did 5 years ago when you’re with your other friends or in front of a big crowd. In my opinion, that just reaches new level of low.
- They want to control you.
They want you to know that they’re the boss in your relationship. They will make sure their ideas are the main ones and your ideas are wrong. They want things to happen in their way that happens to be the right way.
I think that the worst part is that they don’t want to change their ways. Be aware of these kind of people and don’t be afraid to call them out.